Tag Archives: Thoughts

Mar. 26.

Waffle Wednesday: Waiting for a Bed

ww-bedthI HATE waiting. Despise it. Yet it is something we all do so often. We wait for buses, trains, for the kettle to boil, or for that phone call, to say a bed is available for you. I do think that is one of the hardest things to wait for though.

A little background first. Last November I was admitted to hospital with an infection, which we found out to be caused by blockages in my kidneys and bladder. 5 weeks, and several procedures later, I was released in time for Christmas, with the thoughts of going back in after 6 weeks to have a stent taken out of one of my kidneys and a couple of tests to check that the blockage had been cleared. Fair enough. I got a few weeks out of Hospital over Christmas, and could relax before going back in to finish the job.

A few weeks later, I got the phone call to say it’ll be a couple of days, but we will call and confirm. They did call, but it was to cancel. Then we tried again. Another phone call, this time to say we’ll call Friday about admission on a Monday. The call on Friday was to ask me to call and check on Monday morning, for an admission that day. Monday came and went, with no bed. And so, I waited, and waited, and… Waited some more. Eventually, I called them, just to remind them that I was here. Finally, this week, I got another phone call. Again, we’ll confirm on Friday for admission on Monday. Again, there’s a weekend in there too, where who knows what will happen. It all sounds a bit Groundhog Day. Just without the Groundhog, really.

It’s not even that I’m impatient. I can be very patient when I need to be. What is getting to me is not being able to plan anything. Not being able to look for work. Missing an event or a night out with friends happens, ans I’m lucky to have such understanding friends. It’s impossible to go to a potential employer though, and say “Hire me! But by the way, I’ll be going into hospital at some point. I don’t know when and I don’t know for how long. But hire me anyway!” I’d just love to be able to get this all sorted, and get on with life, but until I finally get that phone call, I’ll be here, waiting for a bed…

Have you got any good or bad experiences like this? Are you not a big fan of waiting either? Let me know in a comment!


Note: This is not a rant about the health service. I am very grateful to the excellent healthcare professionals who took care of me, and who work in the health service. It is not an easy job, and we should all be thankful to those who can do it. It’s simply a way for me to vent.


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Then & Now!
Mar. 19.

Waffle Wednesday: Change & the Blogging Journey

ww-thThis little bit of waffle is inspired by finding a snapshot of my blog as stored on the Wayback Machine. I was intrigued by looking at old and new side by side and seeing how things have changed.

Let’s be honest. Change happens. We can resist it, we can hate it, we can try and put it off for as long as possible, but it happens anyway. The best thing to do is just embrace it, go with it, grow and learn from it.

Then & Now!

Then & Now!

When I started blogging, back on June 1st, 2012, if you’ll believe it, I was clueless! Completely and utterly clueless! I dived straight in, bought a domain and hosting, set up a website and got to it. I did enjoy it too, from time to time, but I suffered a lot from lack of inspiration, and it showed in thee lack of effort on both the site and in posts. It looked okay, but it didn’t look great. In the first 18 months of blogging, I did a total of 25 posts. Yes, that few.

Recently though things changed. I became unemployed. I got sick. I got better. And I decided that the site should get better. Things changed, everywhere. As I did say when I launched the new version of the site, I was planning on working on it slowly, and then launch it when I was ready. It didn’t quite work out that way, when I accidentally deleted almost everything. So change happened quickly. Maybe too quickly. I fell in at the deep end, but I managed and adapted and learned from it. I’ll never make a mistake like that again, believe me, but I’m almost glad I did.

Creating the new site helped me rediscover a love of creating things. It had me make the new years resolution to blog at least once a week, something I’ve now surpassed, to posting at least 6 times per week. I’ve taught myself more about taking product photos, about using social media, about how to actually run a blog, and I’m having fun doing it! In the past 3 months I’ve written 34 posts, 17 of which in March alone! I’ve also met so many new and friendly people as a result, but I’m not going to name you all here, as I’ll be here all evening, and will inevitably forget one of you, causing a big upset. You all know who you are though.

Essentially, what I’m saying is never be afraid of change. If you can’t embrace change, you’ll never know how much better things can be. By fighting change you’ll miss out on so many chances to learn, to grow, to get new skills and meet new people. I’m not saying that everyone should instantly change their whole life. Start small and take your time. Think about 1 thing you’d like to change, that is in your power to change (as in, not the world – yet). It might be your blog design, your day to day nail colour, or the first thing you say to yourself each morning. Sorry, second thing – coffee comes first! Then see where your journey goes from there.


The Internet Archive runs the Wayback Machine. Try sticking your blog into it and seeing what it has saved. You’ll be amazed by the way things progress over time!

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Mar. 12.

Waffle Wednesday: Are beauty bloggers just in it for freebies?

WW-collection-thWelcome to a gorgeous Waffle Wednesday. First things first. This post is only going up this evening because I’ve been outside enjoying the sunshine while we have it. Just saying that right now. Anyway, Waffle Wednesday is a chance for me to write about anything that catches my eye. It could be anything really, as long  as I want to vent about it.

This week is inspired by a conversation I saw on Twitter last Friday night. It was about beauty bloggers. Specifically, how one person seems to think that beauty bloggers are just in it for freebies. I can’t be sure whether they were being serious or not, but it got me thinking, is there really that misconception in peoples minds, and if so, what can be done to change it?


Just a small collection of things to tell you about, really.

One of the first points I saw in the conversation was that bloggers get things for free, and everything they review is brilliant. That’s both true, and at the same time not true. Yes, bloggers do get things to try, and a lot of what they review is positive. However, it is not quite as simple as given something for free=good review. While a blogger may be given something, it should be understood that they have to put time and effort into trying products, evaluating whether they do what a company says they should do, taking pictures of them, writing a review and editing everything together. While a member of the public may see just the product having been given, and a review, there is a lot of behind the scenes work that they don’t see.

As for only seeing good reviews – Most bloggers, myself included, don’t like writing bad reviews. We would much rather decide a product doesn’t work for us, put it aside and start on something else that we may like, than writing up a review of a mediocre product. That doesn’t mean, however, that we don’t do bad reviews. If a product is particularly bad, and that there is not much chance of someone loving it, then by all means we will say so. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does, any blogger with integrity will say what they think, and give an honest opinion, even striving to point out flaws in an otherwise good product.

A point that is raised in the conversation is that of trust. If you are suspicious of a blogger, that they may be posting good reviews because they have been given something for free, the question must be asked: If you don’t trust what the blogger is saying, why are you reading it? Go find someone who you trust, and read their blog. It’s the same with newspaper columnists. If you think columnist x spouts a load of drivel each week, do you bother reading it? No, you move on to some other column, which you do trust. The same is valid here. If you read a blog which you trust to give you honest, helpful reviews and advice, should it matter whether they are talking about a product that they bought for themselves, or were given to try out? No. An honest blogger will be more than willing to say that a product is not worth buying, whether they were given it or not. You may be thinking that I’m contradicting myself and what I said about not writing bad reviews. How do you know not to buy it if a blogger hasn’t written about something? Any blog that I read regularly, and there are quite a few, have bloggers behind them that are very active on social media. If you are in doubt about a product, you can always ask a blogger on twitter have they tried it and what they thought of it? They will be more than happy to tell you!

Finally, the question of cost comes into play. Makeup, and more particularly, beauty blogging is a very expensive hobby. Any blog with its own hosting has costs for the website, then there’s a camera for doing photos, regular purchases of essentials, like shampoos, which may include picking up things you haven’t tried before, and wanting to buy all the latest releases, both for yourself and the sake of having the newest things to showcase on the blog, with the inevitable buying of things that you end up not liking. Then, as I said earlier, there is time and effort to prepare something for the blog. If someone is willing to put that much into a hobby, and is then noticed by a company, who decides to ask them to try something new, can we really begrudge them that? Just taking my nail polish collection as an example. There’s 95 bottles in there, of which 8 were samples. That still leaves 87 that I’ve spent my own money on.

I guess this is a very long winded way of saying not to tar everyone with the same brush. There may be some out there who just take the piss (the #prrequest hashtag on twitter can be a great demonstration of what I mean) but most beauty bloggers just want to share their love of makeup, and if you find a beauty blogger, or bloggers you trust, you’ll never go far wrong.

Now, I’m opening the floor to opinions. Is there a misconception about beauty bloggers? How serious is it? And if there is, how can we change it? Meet me in the comments and we’ll have a chat.


Note: I hope this makes sense. It was kinda written as a stream of thought. Amazing what comes out when you get going really.

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Mar. 08.

Thoughts: Adding more structure to the blog

Waffle-150x142Happy weekend all! This is really me trying to verbalise an idea, so bare with me, and at the end I’d love to hear your thoughts, as without you, my dear readers, there’d be no point in me being here. Anyway, inspired by Karen from Lovely Girlie Bits saying she needed to plan some posts, I got thinking about how I could add more structure to the blog by planning out and structuring my posts more. That’s why I was thinking of something along the lines of the following:

  • Manicure Monday: An excuse to work through the 95 and counting bottles of nail polish I own, showcasing 1 a week.
  • Tried Tuesday: I’m pretty sure we have drawerfuls of products we’ve half forgotten about. That’s why on Tuesdays I want to pull something out, try it, and hopefully rediscover a love for it.
  • Waffle Wednesday: A chance for me to rant on about something. A news piece, something I’ve seen, or any random thing that’s caught my eye.
  • Tested Thursday: A bit more serious than Tried Tuesday. On Thursdays I’d see if a product actually lives up to its claims. I’d put it to the test.
  • Face Friday: A reason to appear on my own blog more often, and hopefully I’ll be able to get 1 face a week that I’d actually be happy to display. Failing that you’d end up with a picture of me with a brown bag on my head.
  • Something Else Saturday: Not quite waffling about anything, this is most likely going to be about a tv show, film, book, piece of music, piece of cake, or something else that I want to showcase.
  • Day Off Sunday: Nothing for you today. What do you think I am? A blog-posting robot? I need a day off once a week, okay!

I’ll also be doing additional posts on things that I feel can’t wait for the right day, or on Blog Challenges such as the Best of Beauty.

Now, as I said, this is more my thoughts at the moment, but I’d love to hear what you have to say. What do you think of the idea? Are there any particular topics you’d change? Please do speak up and let me know in the comments.


No brain cells were irreparably damaged from thinking up this post, but it was a close call

UPDATE: Judging by the positive comments, I’ll trial my idea for a couple of weeks and see if it works out for me. Watch this space.

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Mar. 14.

On People, Passing & Confidence

This is a little bit of a waffling post for me, so bear with me. It’s also the first thing I’ve written in a while, so it may not make much sense. If not, I apologise.

Some of you may have read my About Me page. Some of you, not (to those of you in the latter group, it’s over there. Have a read)

In short. I’m transsexual. Most of you just know me as Robyn, while some of you may also know my other half. He’s kinda a less glamourous, less confident version of me, with pretty dull dress sense (seriously, there’s only so many versions of shirt and trousers you can do!)


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